The mind and body are not separate entities. They function as an interactive system and influence each other to such an extent that there really is no separation. Our thoughts instantly affect our muscle tension, breathing, feelings, and more, and these in turn affect our thoughts. When we learn to change either one, we have learned to change the other.
Even when you interact with another person, you affect their experience-at the moment as well as through time via their stored internal representations. It is very important in the practice of NLP to learn to recognize and observe others as well as yourself. The greater the ability a person has to observe another, the easier they have the ability influence and to create change in that person.
Perceptions, emotions, thoughts, and outward behavior occur simultaneously through time. Each influences the response of all the other elements. None is separate nor without impact on the other elements.
Everything influences everything, and does so all the time.
Many people are incongruent with their messaging. They saying one thing and their body says another and maybe have third intention. If you miss something consciously you have missed receiving the information because of the way our brains have been taught to delete information. If you delete information the entire message could be misunderstood.
In fact if you are on the phone your brain makes up the missing body language based on your past experience. If you are reading only, you miss both the body language and the tonal information and your brain makes up the difference from your past experience. If you get in the habit of texting and emailing instead of communicating with others face-to-face, you can loose your unconscious ability to sense danger properly… which means your fight-flight-freeze response will be continuously going off with false positives or everyone will start feeling unsafe.
Tracy Joy is an NLP practitioner, author, and speaker in Vancouver, Canada. She is an international business expert in the area of human systems analysis and thinking change. If you have brain questions, send them Tracy and she’ll answer them on this blog. She can be reached through www.TherapeuticNLP.com