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Presupposition #5: Experience has structure.

All maps/models have a syntax and structural elements. The structural elements are the building blocks of a model. For experience, the structural elements are made up of our words and spoken vocabularies. The syntax is the set of rules or directives that describe how the building blocks can be put together. For us, this is the set of grammar rules that dictate how we fit together words.

The structure of experience consists of sensory impressions – pictures, sounds, feelings, smells, and tastes – some are internally generated and others come from the outside. It is through these sensory impressions that we compare to what is already logged into our memory (our current internal map of reality) and create meaning and subsequently update our internal map of reality.

What was originally logged in that internal map of reality was information or impressions from two months before we were born and our physical brain, sometimes referred to as our critter or reptilian brain started functioning. It was during this time, we gathered our impressions from our mother’s feelings and experiences. Unfortunately, we didn’t have the experience that went along with those feelings to make proper meaning so we made it mean things about ourselves like, we are worthless, helpless, invisible, unlovable, etc…

If our thoughts and memories have a pattern to them, and we know that pattern, we can change them. When we change that pattern or structure, our experience will automatically change no matter what the original experience was like or how long it existed. We can neutralize unpleasant memories and enrich memories that will serve us.

When I was just learning NLP, I was the class demo for our anchoring class. My NLP mentor asked me to think about an experience that was fun and interesting. So I did, and as the feeling loaded up in my mind I looked around at the class and realized they were watching me, and I got self conscious and blushed. Just as I blushed he squeezed my arm. He then asked me who I considered a mentor – which I had none so I replied “the Dali Lama.” Carl had me think about the Dali Lama and then squeezed my other arm. Then he did the unthinkable… He squeeze the first arm and said “ now, when you load up this I want you to load up this too,” and squeeze the second arm. He continued talking to the class while periodically squeezing the first arm which, would immediately bring up my face blushing and then the Dali Lama would appear in my thoughts. This to me seems so wrong… so I begged him to do some thing. He asked if I knew who the woman was that sang the song Hello Dolly. I said “Carol Channing” and as soon as I said it he created another button on my back and he connect it the pattern.  So now, he could squeeze one arm and get me to blush, think about the Dali Lama and hear Carol Channing sing me hello dolly! Forever my memory of that initial fun and interesting experience was changed. 

Tracy Joy is an NLP practitioner, author, and speaker in Vancouver, Canada. She is an international business expert in the area of human systems analysis and thinking change. If you have brain questions, send them Tracy and she’ll answer them on this blog. She can be reached through www.TherapeuticNLP.com

Do you know how to control the pictures in your mind?

So if you have any doubts about the pictures in your mind try really hard now to not think of white bears. You can’t help but see them… and your picture of white bears is very different than everyone else’s pictures of white bears… feel free to ask them to describe their pictures…

Richard Bandler and John Grinder (our NLP godfathers) discovered this. They discovered that these pictures are part of our individual maps of reality. They also noticed that we hold these pictures in space…so right now, close your eyes and put your hands out and try and grab that picture of the white bear you just created.

Where is your picture located? Most likely it will be located on the right side and above the horizon. That’s because your brain creates new images on the right and it makes pictures above the horizon.

If you feel anxious the picture is too close to you. So for an example use a picture of stinky garbage. If you move that picture up to your nose, you get anxious (and your nose will probably crinkle!)… try a picture of something you have to do, like an exam or a term paper, or a work assignment or even planning an event. Putting the picture of it up to your nose will make you more concerned and anxious about accomplishing the task. But, if you move the picture back a little farther than where the picture originated, you won’t feel as anxious.

Back to the smelly garbage. The smelly garbage on your nose will make nose crinkle. What your brain is doing, is smelling the garbage, even though the garbage is not really there…if you drain the color out of that garbage picture, your nose will stop crinkling and your brain will stop smelling the garbage that’s not there… you can use this with painful thoughts too.

Find the picture that you are making with the painful thought for example the person you dread having a conversation with and drain the color out of it.
Let me know how this works for you…

Tracy Joy is an NLP practitioner, author, and speaker in Vancouver, Canada. She is an international business expert in the area of human systems analysis and thinking change. If you have brain questions, send them Tracy and she’ll answer them on this blog. She can be reached through www.TherapeuticNLP.com